Mothers can I have your views pls?

my dad has *changed word incase i get another ban* off to serbia.
love him.

seperated now but he used to do his share, he should want to spend time with them after all, it will be him that misses out on special moments

I'm a father not a mother but I really sympathise. Does he realise how much he's missing out on?

You werent on wife swap last week were you??????

i would be well hacked off if this was my OH
i know full well my OH will be doing his fair share, maybe you should speak to him about it he is the one missing out he will regret it later when they are older too many people forget that having a child is a gift and take their children for granted

don't get me wrong he does love them to bits which is why I can't understand why he doesn't want to spend every minute he can with them

My parnter sits on the computer most of the time and ignores me and my son!!! He plays world of warcraft and we don't get spoken to most of the night. I just ignore him back and sit and watch TV with our son. He does take him out every saturday to his parents all day, and then on a sunday he lets me have a lie in (til midday :D) and he watches him but usually I think he ignores him and plonks him in front of the TV.

So you're not alone at all, but I think he should definitely sit with him and spend time with him. You should shock him and say you're putting them up for adoption!!!! It should make him s&&t himself pmsl

lol no think i should do tho lmao

Well i am a father not a mother our kids are 3 and 11 months. My wife is deffinately the primary carer as i have a job and she is a housewife. However when i am home i give my fair share looking after the kids. Bathing and playing and generally looking after them is not a chore as it is valuable time with my kids, which i would not give up. Plus i bet your work looking after the kids and house is harder than his(if your kids are anything as boisterous as ours). He should deffinately have some time himself looking after the kids so he can spend quality time with his children and you can get your sanity back. If he doesn't he will regret the missed oppertunity in the future. well thats what i think anyway.

thx. i don't think he thinks like that. all he thinks is that he's tired coz he works and he's maybe bitter coz i dont anymore..... i just dont know

show that to your husband. he will get it LOL.

The bloke on last weeks programme did absolutely NOTHING and thought the whole world revolved around him and that he should not have to do stuff with the kids cos he'd worked and she didnt so when he got home he was allowed to chill and relax!!!

In my experience males need to be nagged into doing anything to do with kids & housework...................... you need your time too............. NAG HIM

i sympathise with you coz i know how it feels. my lie in is sunday but i normally get up about 8am as i can hear shouting and when he does look afted them the little one goes in his pram for as long as he will do and the older one gets plonked on the nintendo ds which i dont allow him to play coz i think he's too young